The Next Year!!!

Its again that time of the year when people look back and say that they don’t have a clue of how the year passed while some will be seen making the age old statement :Oh, How time flies”.

Yes that’s a fact and we all know it so every time a year goes by we don’t have to lament on the year gone by but take something from the year and make it count in the memories of your lifetime. Each year you live should have something special in it to remember it by. There should not be even one such year which when you look back at your life feels like a year lost.

For being able to do that thing, here are a few suggestions:

1.       Capture and document each and every big moment of your life: If something big is happening in your year ranging from a wedding to your promotion, celebrate it and capture it before the next big thing comes and make a diary to remember your big events in the year by.

2.       Go on a Vacation: You must, must and you must definitely go on on a holiday..a big break in the busy lives that we have…take a break ..Breathe in the fresh air and enjoy the locales with your partner, friends or family because it is only at the destination you realise the value of the journey and the companions.

3.       Make time for Family: If you work away from your parents make it a point to visit your folks as much as possible and enjoy very big event of their lives too with them. They have given you their time and life…its time to return the favour.

4.     Learn something new: Every year make it a point to learn something new…what you can learn can range from cooking a new cuisine, learning the guitar or trekking…anything that you can look back in the future and say that year 2013 when I learned how to do photoshop. Anything you learn take a picture and document it also in your annual diary J

5.    Check if you are happy- give yourself time and ask yourself if you are really happy. If the answer is yes then move on and  keep enjoying but if the answer is No ,introspect and find out what can be done to make you happy again and do that. Try to move on from the negatives of life and be genuinely happy. Your happiness can be shared by others but felt only by you and body is that a great feeling J

This is my list of what I will try to do every year…if you have better ideas share and I will incorporate them in my next year activities J

Here’s wishing everyone a fun and love filled New Year!!!! J

Raise Individuals!!!

Hearing the news of the brutal rape of the 5 year old in Delhi yet again has shook the nation which has yet not fully come over the horror of the gangrape victim case in December 2012.

The first case drew the people to the streets demanding justice .Where the case made the people come in support of the victim, it also led to certain weird remarks from various people at different levels of leadership in our country. Some   said that girls should not be allowed outside of the houses without dupattas , the others said they should dress according to the culture of the nation.People even went to the conclusions to say that the consumption of western foods like chowmein incites men.

But the recent case has put a stop to all arguments however baseless they were in the first place. There is no possible reason on this earth to violate a 5 year old let alone torture her. She has not even lived properly and does not even realise the complexities of life. For her she’s just a kid like the rest of them.Why then in the tender age of 5 , she has been subjected to violence that will haunt her the rest of life if provided she is saved after the incident.

The basic problem lies in the mindset of the men and women of our society. We are too bound in the shackles of the society where the two genders are not deemed equal. When a boy is born in the family they say that the heir has come and when a girl is born they either equate her to the goddesses or out rightly say ‘isse to paraye ghar jaana hain’.Both the approaches are wrong  because from the moment they are born we associate the kids to their gender and sketch out their future.

We have to raise them as individuals and not gender biased kids. We have to teach our sons that they are equal to the girls. Just because they are born as guys they do not have access to any special privileges. Similarly the girls have to be taught that they are born as individuals and they have full right to choose their own lives. They are in no way lesser than the boys.

We have been born as two different genders to keep a balance in the world. But nowhere does this need to be established that men are the superior race or women are the delicate darlings. The ladies should be allowed to do their chores on their own and the men should be taught to respect them and not treat them as an inferior race and treat them as commodities. Unless this thinking changes in our existing patriarchal society, such incidents might just keep happening.

We have to remember that at the end of the day we are all individuals trying to complete our journey of life in our own ways. And that journey is way too precious to everyone and we should respect that about each other. We can’t find all the existing or potential rapists breathing, what we can do is try and change the thinking of our next generation so that we finally get a society where people are treated as individuals and not on their genders.